-An Anecdote-
You’ve probably heard that the mind, by its very nature, will never allow you to remain in the present and will always keep you dwelling either in the past or the future.
This intriguing short real-life narrative will show you how a fickle mind prevents you from accepting change and from coming up with answers.
Please take a moment to read an interesting anecdote about a married Punjabi woman in her mid-twenties who is working hard to survive through a 5-year long-distance relationship. Her husband had to move to Delhi in 2018 for a new business setup.
She has the responsibility of her in-laws’ parents and a 5-year-old daughter. Her longtime dream of working as a government official is still pending, creating chills as her age limit may soon cross the job eligibility criteria.
I would change her name to Preet. Preet has grown up without parents, as she lost them in an accident. She lives in a small town in Punjab and has few friends to share her things with, but she chooses not to reveal her most intimate secrets to them.
It was a weekday, and I was getting ready to do my usual writing when Preet called. On the first day, she was afraid about her exam. I suggested a few activities to practice that would help boost her confidence.
I was studying a color pyramid, a technique that helps people identify obstacles and priorities in their lives, acquire clarity, and fight off confusion. To finish the test tool, I gave it to Preet.
Preet responded, to which I could study her blockages, which were related to her stuck emotions and restricted communication.
After studying, I gave her my report, and she finally revealed the things she had never told anyone.
Reflective listening helped me understand her inner struggles. On that day, all she needed was a listening ear
I want to take a moment to emphasize that you can assist your loved ones in finding a solution if you pay close attention to what they are saying. Try to pay attention to your children’s school experiences, your friends’ employment circumstances, and your wife’s and husband’s everyday activities. More than half of family issues would be resolved by doing this.
The open-ended talk helped Preet become aware of her emotions and passive anger situations. Preet felt lighthearted, and she asked the solution to come out of it. She was beginning to experience depression.
I asked Preet to engage in activities and meditate. She sent a message three to four days later stating that she was feeling good and had seen a slight shift in her behavior. Preet expressed her dissatisfaction with her mother’s actions in a message once more. She is unable to meditate. This occurs because the mind’s repetitive cycle won’t allow you to accept the change you have made.
Meditation and other practices work slowly, depending on how much you have worked according to your monkey mind.
Within ten days, she received the most surprising response from her family’s astrologer regarding the most devastating separation. She expressed her gratitude to God and acknowledged that everything was working out for the best for her.
Let me make it clear that Preet, who comes from a Sikh family, was cautious and skeptical about seeking astrological guidance, but her practice enabled her to approach an astrologer with optimism and listen to the biggest reason why she wanted to listen in order to keep living her life happily. She was satisfied with what the astrologer revealed about her current situation and thought process based on her planetary positions.
The benefit to a few days of sitting sincerely for Meditation and self-work activities will open up you like preet to more new experiences, people, guidance and happiness.
With pure mind and concentration, solutions will come to you on their own; an unbiased thinking and welcoming to the one great energy that is responsible for all cause and effect.